PERFECT OR RIGHT!!!!!?

People are always looking for Mr. or Miss Perfect or Mr. or Miss Right. But, have they actually ever wondered if there is such a person? Sure they have dreamt of these people for practically their whole lives thinking that they will find that "ONE" that they want. Dreaming, day dreaming, imagining, idealizing. These are just, to name a few, of what people have done in the name of a "Lasting Marriage" or a "Happily Ever After" life.

But that is just the problem. We are mostly caught up in a world were we dream and hope that it will be a reality. We are still clinging to a "Fairy Tale" romance where in the fairy tale wedding of the 20th century ended up in divorce.

Pardon me for being pessimistic. But let us all have a reality check.

In a world of fairy tales, they do exist. Just the way that you want them. You can even conjure them up with some potions or spell or just make one. Just like TV. But we live in a reality where there is more or less pain than what we actually taught. We all ask for the Right person or the Perfect person to be with for the rest of our lives. But have we really asked ourselves one question. ARE WE THE RIGHT PERSON OR THE PERFECT PERSON FOR THEM?

We spent a quarter of our lives dreaming or thinking of the perfect mate. And another quarter of our lives looking for that person. And the rest of our lives living with that person and thinking, "IS THIS REALLY THE PERSON THAT I WANT TO BE WITH FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE?" We spend a more than half of our natural lives thinking about such person. Molding them in our minds, customizing their attitudes, designing the physical appearance, and so on and so fort. Always thinking of what we want and what is best for us, and never stopping to ask ourselves if we are worthy of such a person to be with.

ARE WE, WORTHY OF THAT RIGHT OR PERFECT PERSON? That is the question that barely entered our minds. And when that question pop out of our mind and think about it, we stop then the fairy tale comes again and we never think about it again. That is what most of us is doing. We always wanted the other person to be in accordance to our will. But we rarely follow them in accordance to their will.

The human race is now divided into different categories. Depending on how they view the perfect mate.

There are the "FAIRY TALE PEOPLE" where they always want things to be just the way they like them. Just like in the fairy tales.
Then there are the "I'M PERFECT FOR YOU PEOPLE". They are those who will always tell you that they are the best mate for you.
Then there are those who are a bit realistic. They are the "MAKE IT HAPPEN PEOPLE". They are the ones who settle for someone else and do their best to make their marriage work while asking, WHAT IF I MARRIED MY FIRST CHOICE AND NOT THIS ONE?
We can also meet the "GET MARRIED PEOPLE". They are the ones who met someone, make some connection then get married simply because they are lonely and that they don’t want to grow old alone.
You may also have meet the "TRY IT ON PEOPLE". They are the ones who go from one relationship to another. Their reason being, IT'S NOT WORKING FOR ME.

There are lots more than this. And they all share one thing. THEY ONLY THINK OF THEMSELVES. They think that the world revolves around them and the world owes them a lot for coming into this world.

But there is one thing I have learned from all this. And that is to have balance. We should spend the same amount of time in changing ourselves to be worthy of the person we want while dreaming and looking for the perfect mate....



RYGEL FOR AT SA LHAT NA DIN.....
EMON